How To Skip the Small Talk and Connect With Anyone | Kalina Silverman | TEDxWestminsterCollege

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Kalina Silverman wanted to see what could happen if she approached strangers and skipped the small talk to have more meaningful conversations with them instead. She made a video documenting the experience. The stories she heard and the connections she made proved that there's power in taking the time to stop and ask people to reflect on the questions that truly matter in life.

Since then, she has continued to work on expanding Big Talk into a movement that inspires and enables people to connect with one another on a deeper level.

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  • naim the artist


    this resonated with me so immensely.

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  • R Porterfield


    I HATE small talk!!!!

  • bio ROBOT


    reatarded biorobots get on stage of tedx

  • Jade God


    i skipped the video 5 times and every time i skipped i ended up on her saying „and“

  • Brian Ogle


    Way too many „and, umms.“ And „likes“.

  • gintoki


    I think It’s cute how her ears poke out from the sides of her hair

  • Snoi


    Did that dog barking get anyone else a little emotional? Dang.

  • Balamurugan Dineshkumar


    its was 2am (while watching and posting this comment) just to describe the silence i mention this, and with good headphones , i can actually listen to her heartbeat for first 3 minutes of video.

  • Dhruv Baria


    A lot of people are missing the point.She didn’t tell to initiate the conversation by asking „What u wan to do before you die?“ What she meant is that after small talk,you can start big talk,not just continuing with talking about irrelevant stuff.

  • Xavier Benbow


    Okay so as a late teen, and like most teens, we wanna get inna relationship or have a fun night or two with someone else. So seeing the title of this video I thought I could get some tips to archive my simple goals. Now I don’t think I’ll be wooing anyone with the question “ what would you do if you were gonna die tommorow “ . That’s just not attractive , that’s something you ask when you wanna interview someone and only have 5 mins before that person goes into a meeting.

    Still a good video , but I ain’t using that question to get with someone till I’m 80 and I could die tommorow

  • surfingsuicune


    Is she wearing tights as pants? Goddamn, those are painted on.

  • nathanafi


    this was super inspiring.

  • FearlesslyAli


    The excessive self promotion really causes me to loose attention through out the narrative.

  • Roy Montero


    „You cannot make a friend, you can only be a friend.“ — Roy Montero

    „How To Skip the Small Talk and Connect With Anyone“ — Kalina Silverman

  • Daniel Swan


    Were there people in the experiment that said no? What do you do when they don’t want to skip small talk… or perhaps don’t want to talk at all?

  • John Kincaid


    I can not believe the number of un-evolved trolls commenting here. This young lady has obviously accomplished more at her young age of 21 than all the negative people commenting here. This is an amazing video, from a young lady who has demonstrated incredible courage, vulnerability and vision. BIG TALK to Silicon Valley…have any of you done that? At 21, 31, 41, 51? Get an f***ing clue people. We need to celebrate her vision, her strategy and her openness. Do any of you have EVOLVED answers to her questions? Or is it „pass me the Cheetos and beer?“ Get an f***ing clue….

  • Daniel Young


    I just can’t. Tried to make it to the end of this but she’s boring as a bucket of sand

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